A lot of people get married because they feel it’s time to because of the age factor. But age isn’t the necessary requirement for marriage; in fact, it is the least requirement for getting married. There are more important things.
These are some of the things a man should have before getting married:
1. A job/work/business
A man who’s looking to be married ought to have something doing; starting a family requires a lot of bills, and a man is more ‘manly’ when he can put food on the table. If a man can’t satisfy this obligation, then the family will live in chaos – peace will be a foreign language in that home.
2. An idea of who he wants
Before a man gets married, he should have an idea of who he wants; you can’t just pick any woman and marry her, you ought to know who/what you want in a woman.
3. Understanding of what he wants
Another important thing a man should have/know before getting married is an understanding of what he wants in a home. How do you want your home to be? How do you want your marriage to be? You should have an idea of what you want in starting a family before starting. In reality, you don’t just build a house without an understanding of what you want in that house. There’s first a conception of the house, before the architect draws up the plan. The same should apply in your marriage.
Marriage is for the mature minds and if you haven’t reached this stage of handling situations maturely, then marriage isn’t for you; it isn’t about age, but how well you can control yourself and make wise decisions in the heat of the moment. I put it to you that every wife beater is immature for marriage.
Vision is another important thing a man should have before marriage; you ought to have a vision for yourself and also a vision for the marriage. Where is that marriage heading to? Where are you heading to? You need to have this vision as a man, because a man without vision is heading nowhere.
6. Knowledge of the woman and how to treat her
This is another important tip every man should have before getting married. If you don’t know how to treat a woman, then at least know how to treat your woman, and if you don’t know how to treat that woman, then you need to learn before you ask her to marry you.
7. The zeal to be committed
If you know that you aren’t ready to give in your 100% to make your marriage work and you aren’t going to be fully committed, then marriage isn’t for you yet. You must have the zeal for commitment before heading into marriage.
A man shouldn’t just jump into marriage for the sake of it, these are some important things he should have before getting married.