Sometimes you might be a good person with good intentions in life, and rather than attract people who have good intentions like you, you mostly attract toxic people into your lives, and it isn’t something that you do intentionally, it just happens.
You could have strengths that can end up being your weaknesses, and that’s a summary of why you keep having toxic people in your life, rather than people who have the same strengths that you have.
These are some probable reasons you attract toxic people into your life.
1. You are kindhearted
Showing kindness to everyone you come across is a strength; it shows that you have a good heart and that you are selfless. But when people notice this good in you, they’d mostly want to take advantage of it and it’s for this reason that they come into your life.
2. You don’t know how to say "no"
There are a lot of people who don’t know how to say no to others; just in a bid not to create a bad impression of themselves and hurt other people, they agree to certain things even when they ought to say no, and these people attract a lot of toxic people into their lives. There are lots of people who would like them just because they can exploit them.
3. You are a good listener
Being a good listener is a good thing, but then it can also become toxic in certain situations. When people find that you are willing to listen to everything they have to say without complaining, they’d want to tell you more. Everyone loves a good listener, and you’d subconsciously attract both the good and toxic people to yourself.
4. You are easy going
Easy going people are lovely to be with; they don’t complain about what life throws at them, and they are positive people who don’t create complications; they are peaceful to be with. This quality will attract a lot of people to you, more especially a lot of people with negative attitude who are willing to rub off on your positive energy; they know they can’t be with people like them, so they rather choose to be with people with such attitude.
5. You don’t recognize the untrustworthiness in others
Inasmuch as it’s good to see the positive things in people, it’s also important to recognise the wrong things about them that you should be wary of. Sometimes it’s good to call a spade a spade, and understand who someone truly is. When you treat everyone like they are trustworthy, you invite toxic people to your life for free.
6. You are desperate
Desperation is a negative trait, and it’s one that will make people want to take advantage of you. When you are at your lowest point, that’s when you’d see who people truly are, and that’s when you’ll know that people would be willing to take advantage of you.
7. Someone tells you what you want to hear
Be with someone who will tell you the hard truth that no one else will rather than someone who will tell you what you want to hear, especially when you are in position of authority or you’re wealthy. People who tell you things that’ll tickle your fancy are actually toxic people who are only there for what they can get, and so you should avoid them at all costs.
8. You let everyone into your life
Sometimes you just have to know who’s gold and who’s gold-plated. Know the kind of people you need in your life and only become close with people who meet those characteristics. Don’t let everyone you come across into your personal life; learn to sieve the good ones from the chaff.
Have you been attracting toxic people into your life? These are the major reasons why; it isn’t really about the people you are attracting, it’s about you.