You might have the best partner and relationship in the world, but you wouldn’t know this because all you do is base your relationship on what you see on social media. You compare your relationship with the fakery on social media and fail to see the good things happening in your own relationship.
I have nine genuine reasons why you should stop comparing your relationship to what you see on social media
1. People post their best moments on social media
One thing about social media is that you get to see the best of people’s worlds; they post their happy moments with their partners, vacations, wonderful outings and other fun moments. You could see this and create a bad image of yourself based on the best things happening in another person’s life.
2. You don’t get to see their pains
Take a look at social media and you’ll only get to see one side of the story — the glory. You don’t get to see the pains, the arguments and the misunderstanding. So when you compare your relationship with what you see on social media; you’ll only end up comparing your worst life with the best life of another couple, and that’s an unfair thing to do to yourself.
3. You fall to appreciate the good things going on in your relationship
When you start to see the good things happening in another person’s relationship via what they post on social media, you’ll tend to lose sight of the things happening in your relationship, and you will in turn fail to appreciate all the great things you have working for you.
4. You compare the wrong things
The worst thing about comparing your relationship with what you see on social media is that you will tend to focus more on the wrong things happening in your relationship and compare with the right things in the other person’s relationship, which isn’t right; your focus will only be on the highlighted wrong things happening in your own relationship. That’s what people get to compare whenever they compare their relationships.
5. You start to focus on what doesn’t matter
Communication, understanding, commitment — these are very important things that should be present in every relationship, but these are the things you won’t get to see on social media. At the end of the day, you will end up focusing on what doesn’t really matter in your relationship.
6. You start to choose fantasy over reality
The life you see on social media is the fantasy most people choose to share, and when you base your relationship on that; you will end up choosing fantasy over reality.
7. You slowly turn yourself into a terrible partner
The danger of focusing on people’s post on social media is that you’ll turn yourself into a terrible partner with each passing day. You complain and nag more, become complacent, unappreciative, ignorant, nonchalant and even disrespectful to your partner — these are some of the things social media will do to you.
8. You become distracted
Distractions start to set in when you focus your life on social media. Like every other thing in life, the moment you take your eyes off the prize, you start to lose focus, and you get distracted by what shouldn’t matter in the first place.
9. You start reading meaning into everything
Basing your relationship life on social media will make you see more of what doesn’t matter and less of what truly matters, and then you’d start to read meaning into what shouldn’t matter in your relationship.
Base your relationship on what you share with your partner and never for a second compare it to the false pictures you see on social media. Social media is like a wedding; everyone wears their best clothes and put on their best smiles, but it doesn’t truly mean everyone is rich and happy.