A therapist, counselor, psychologist, shrink, however you refer to a certified mental health practitioner, is not in any way supposed to solve whichever reason you come to them with.
They can help you get in touch with your true self but not erase your painful memories. They can guide you in digging deep to find the root of a certain habit but
they cannot force you to behave in different ways.
And most importantly, they cannot read your mind as some have neither come to believe nor can they clear your past.
Many who have had sessions with counselors have different experiences because each of us is different and certainly reasons that bring us to those professionals are not similar but you can count on them to do their best to provide you with the help you need. What I like most about it is the confidentiality that the relationship brings where you are allowed to be free and speak your mind without worrying that there will be any sort of gossip outside of what you said during the sessions.
Some have the excuse that these professionals are hard to find in Rwanda but that is false. Clinics are available with trained and licensed counselors ready to help you at any time, and those worried about how much it will cost, know that it is all worth
it and most of these centers accept several insurances. So, do not let that be the reason you do not get help.
There are also virtual ways to get mental health care like Positive which is one of the apps that you can download and seek an appointment with a counselor for free as it is a platform that volunteers and give time and skills to be there when you need help.
So, go to therapy with an open mind and be ready to do the work with the help of your therapist, and be the best you that you can be.